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Ten years ago, when I embarked on having boundaries, I was terrified of the vulnerability that came with not only getting honest with me about my own needs, feelings, expectations, desires, opinions and beliefs and how I was going to go about honouring these, but that also came with having to express them with others. We use associations with past experiences to inform us and then end up wondering why we’re simmering in resentment or feeling isolated even if technically, there are people around us.
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Our comfort zone can become not honouring our boundaries and not learning how to navigate conflict and criticism because at least we don’t allow anybody to get close enough to us that we might not be able to deal with what we regard as the bigger pain of disappointment. Should I even bother hearing what he has to say? It makes me upset that he would come back to tell me bad news 3 weeks later, as if the silence wasn’t loud enough of a message already.Some people roll with the You’re either with me or against me attitude, so they have a dangerous expectation that if we are their family member / friend / partner etc, we must always agree with them (even if we don’t) and anything they perceive as criticism can be met with a great deal of hostility and/or radio silence, so we can be chopped from their lives temporarily or permanently and not always know why, or be baffled as to how it escalated to that level or why there was little or no conversation.Įven without this attitude, conflict and criticism (C-situations), whether it’s the actuality of it or just the potential for it, does bring up vulnerability and if we are not comfortable with expressing our truth as we know it at that time, or stepping up for ourselves, hearing their side or dealing with any potential fallout, we may feel inclined to ‘go dark’ so that we remain safe.
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No word yet, but I’m not really expecting to hear from him until tonight or whenever he has a free chance.Ĭan you guys give me any advice on how I should go about this? I still like him, but I had already begun the moving on process. I responded a few hours later after I got home from an Oscars viewing party.
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Moving on! Last night he reaches out and apologizes for the extended period of silence, and asks me how I’m doing.
After a week I decided his message was pretty loud and clear, figuring he probably ghosted and was too coward to tell me anything, fine I get it. And in my mind I’m cueing bad news already.ģ weeks pass, radio silence. I asked him if he even liked me as more than a friend bc I felt a little pushed away that night and at this point (4-5 months in) I wanted to know if a relationship was even something he was open to. 3 weeks ago we had a day time date and it started off fine, but sometime in the middle of the date I felt something shift and I couldn’t figure out why… it had been several months of this dragged out gray area dating period so after the date I decided to talk to him about it. However throughout the entire time we maintained contact and were always trying to see each other. We ended up having sex for the first time right before the holidays, so we didnt have much chance to see each other until we got back from new year’s. We really hit it off! Unfortunately, there were lulls in our dating period due to busy work schedule, out of town trips/family visits, the holidays, life, the usual.
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Me and this guy met in September and started going out on dates once every few weeks.